Colossians 4:6 (Apologetics)
“Your speech should always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer each person.”
I was heading into the mall the other day when I heard a bright female voice behind me say quite loudly, and clearly, that she had always wanted to go (F-bomb) eat at that (F-bomb) restaurant. I couldn’t help but react and turn around to see a young and attractive woman pointing to the restaurant – and a pack of young kids running up behind her. Then one of them said, “Wait up, mom….”
I could hardly believe that the words I had just heard were coming from a young mom saying it loudly – and especially right in front of her own young children. I work from my home so I don’t hear this filth unless I go out. I’m just amazed how that particular word is now used as just an ordinary expression. It seems young and old alike see no harm in expressing thoughts and words of the vilest sort. I’m even seeing it crop up in Facebook, even among those who claim to be children of the Highest. Or some are even spreading “humor” or words that are laced with uncouth thoughts and words from the toilet.
Children of God, that simply must never be the case among the Household of God. We are all being called OUT of this world into HIS kingdom, His Way, HIS words, His manner – and that includes our Father’s graciousness and civility. We’re either a part of Him or we’re not. If we’re a part of Abba’s way, we ask for him to cleanse our hearts and minds and tongues of the lack of civility, crassness, crudeness and toilet humor we see ever more of.
I used a similar “bad word” once in my mama’s hearing, (oh how I wish I knew beforehand that she was in the general area!) when I was about 10 years old or so, and I will never forget my mom literally sticking a bar of soap in my mouth as she assured me she never ever wanted to hear her son use such awful language; language unbecoming to a child of Holy, Holy, Holy God. I will never in all my life forget the talking to I got that day!
A little seasoning, a little salt, makes otherwise unattractive food taste better. Gracious speech is the same. In this age of crude F-bombs spoken with impunity, we who are of the household of Abba must remember whose family we’re a part of: be gracious, be clean, be uplifting. Many of us, myself certainly included, have “lost it” at times and spoken hurtful words in anger or words we wish we could reach out and throw into the garbage, where they belong. No doubt some of us have had times when we lost our temper, said mean things, spoken uncouth words or discussed and joked about issues that were not gracious, and were not reflective of the holy, holy, holy Father we have. We represent His family, his kingdom. We must wash out our mouths with the soap of God’s word and deep repentance – and grow ever more like him in thought, word and deed until people see more and more of Yeshua (Jesus) in our lives.
I’ve been mean-tongued at times in my life. There, I’ve said it. I’m committed to – for the rest of my life -- surrendering all that to my gracious Savior so He can give me His new heart first – and then my tongue will be clean, holy and gracious too. I wish to surrender my tongue that once was quick to have the witty-but-painful come-backs and graciously accept the new tongue that will heal and encourage. But first“cleanse the inside of the dish and then the outside will be clean also” (Matthew 23:26). First ask for the new clean heart Yahweh has promised freely to the repentant – and from your new clean heart, clean and gracious words will flow, for from out of the heart flow all our words and actions (Matthew 15:18). No more do we want words that break one’s hope and spirit – but words that rejuvenate those feeling weak, afraid, discouraged, despondent and faint.
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